So what labels have you had to deal with in your life?  Were you called names by a bully?  Taunted with fatso, loser, fag, emo or ditz?  Given messages that you weren't good enough or smart enough?  Were you defined by your race, skin colour or religion?  Black, Indian, Scottish, German?  Jehovah Witness, Jewish, Muslim? As soon as I write these things and you read them you probably have associations come to your mind about what those things mean and what kind of people you are likely to meet when you hear those descriptors.  But wait.....you haven't met the person yet!  The ideas that just went through your mind were taught to you.  When you were are born you weren't any of those things.  You were just a blank slate with a mind waiting to be filled and a body whose senses brought in the information.  You didn't have prejudice.  It was all just curiosity based.  You felt.  You explored.  You attached to others and you learned.  But you didn't think about a person's weight or skin colour if they were providing you with love.  It's time we unlearn the prejudices that we've been taught and get back to being our real authentic selves.  Time to stop buying into a culture that promotes judgement and racism.  There is an amazing company started right here in Waterloo called 'Unlearn'.  It is about learning to remove the barriers that blind us to our authentic selves.  unlearn.com   I highly recommend that you check it out.  Enjoy!

I see lots of people.  Lots and lots of people!  I love them all.  We are all so different and so the same eh? One thing that is fascinating is how some people walk through the door and as soon as they are seated they start crying and others.....well....it's harder for them to figure out what they are feeling about what is going on in their lives.  Neither is good or bad, right or wrong......just different.  So this blog is about how important it is to be able to figure out what you are feeling because then it gives you information about what you want to do.  So if you get in touch with your feelings of being discounted, sad and angry then you might decide to leave that marriage or job..  However, we need to think and give ourselves reality checks about our feelings.  If you are feeling discounted, sad and angry and you discover that your husband or employer was distracted because their mother was dying, then you might decide to stay.  It's a discipline and a conversation internally to have feelings about your thoughts and thoughts about your feelings.  This is the sweet spot where people have difficulty.  When people get in touch with their feelings then they sometimes think that it means that what they are experiencing is true.  But fantasy can sometimes cloud reality and make a bad situation seem rosier or a rosy situation seem horrific.  The trick is to be in touch with both your feelings AND your thoughts and then to focus on what you have control of .....which is yourself .....and make a decision.   I hope all of that didn't leave you feeling ......well.....confused!!!  Email me if it did.  Have a good day!