Everyone is all abuzz about mindfulness these days.  And so they should be.  Now is the only moment in which we actually have control.  Yesterday is water under the bridge.  All you can do is celebrate the victories, grieve the losses and learn the lessons that are gained along the way.  Who knows what tomorrow will bring?  In the Alcoholics Anonymous tradition they use the serenity prayer.  God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, (the other guy or the situation that is outside of your control), the courage to change the things I can (ourselves and the part of the situation we do have control of) and the wisdom to know the difference!!!!  When we try and negotiate with people who are drunk or rail against things that can't be changed (like the long cold winters), it makes life much more difficult and full of drama than it needs to be.  Our job is to be mindful of where we are putting our attention while we are making the choices that can be made about our situation.  The practise of mindfulness will help your marriage, your work, your parenting, and the list is endless.   Emotionally it can help to ease anxiety and focus your attention away from the depths of depression.   I cannot say enough good things about it.....except that I wish I had learned about this skill YEARS ago.  Your mind is not in charge folks.  Once you realise that your spirit gets to choose which thoughts it wants to listen to and which thoughts lead your spirit back to wholeness.....you are on the road to recovery.    One day at a time.......!!!!