So everyone has a different comfort zone regarding chaos and clutter. Some people like things absolutely neat and ‘in order’ and some like a house that’s a little bit ‘homier’. These are just different standards….one is not better than the other. However, if you have a goal of feeling calmer or more at peace, then the outside scenario needs to match the standard or value you have on the inside. And if your mind is cluttered, or you don’t know what matters to you and what your priorities are in life, then having clutter and chaos on the outside can make it difficult to figure that out. And how does that make your butt look big you ask? Because then you tend to feel overwhelmed and scared or shameful so you shut down and cope in old and adaptive ways that don’t solve the problem. This can trigger, but is not limited to, overeating, drinking or any of the numerous avoidant behaviours …..it could be reading magazines…but it is NOT solving the problem! So…..the important thing is to decide ‘who am I’? What matters to me, and is my behaviour matching what I say matters to me? And then your butt won’t get so big!!!! lol
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