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It's a Cup!!

5/20/2016

 

So the expressions tend to go “so-and-so is really optimistic….they always see the cup as half-full”  or “so-and-so is so negative….they only see the cup as half-empty”. 

I say…..”It’s a cup.  Half of it is full and half of it is empty.”  “Acknowledge the whole thing and then dwell on the full part”.  I think when we don’t acknowledge all of our feelings and the facts about what is going on then we can stay in denial about difficult things in our lives.  However, once you’ve validated your feelings and thoughts about what you don’t like or what isn’t fair…..then you might as well dwell on the part that is half full!! 

No matter what your experience or decision in life, there are going to be perspectives and parts of it that you aren’t going to like.  A single person gets to be in control and get what they want without negotiation AND often struggles with loneliness.  A married person gets companionship and extra resources re: money and work and support when they are sick…….AND has to share decision making and not always get things their way.  Whatever your situation or decision, you need to expect that it will have pros and cons.  So all you can do is make the best choice you can, with the information that is available, and then get behind your decision and keep yourself okay and not dwell on the negatives. 

It’s not a perfect world.  Make the best choice you can and then don’t beat yourself up about it.

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