Remember gunnelbobbing??? My sister and I used to stand on the edges at opposite sides of a canoe and try to bounce the other person overboard. It was SO much fun!!! However, some relationships make me think of this image. Usually it involves two people who have gone through some kind of misfortune and have not quite recovered yet. One person might be coming out of a divorce and the other an addiction. Both may be having an affair and coming out of difficult marriages. Whatever the situation is, it is not a good idea to start a relationship when you are both still ‘wobbly’. While the initial excitement can be fun, it’s not much fun when you topple over. Relationships that start with two people who are ‘wobbly’ have a tendency to be more reactive in the thinking and behaving departments. Twelve Step programs recommend that you are ‘clean and sober’ and single for 1 year prior to adding the complications of a relationship. In other words, it’s better to get yourself grounded and onto ‘dry land’, to continue with the metaphor, and know what you want and develop the skills about how to get it, before getting involved in a new relationship. Just a thought...... If you decide to gunnelbob; you’ll be fine. You might just have a more exciting ride and messier lessons that’s all!!
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