What do you see?

​So I want you to look at the page I've posted below and think about what you see....

If you said to yourself "a black dot" you would have responded the same way that almost all of the people that come to see me respond.  And you would be right.  However, you would be missing a large part of what it is.  It is actually a blank page with a small white dot on it.  And, for most of us, when we have issues going on in our lives we see this.

​So the tricky thing is to recognize and work on solutions about the 'black dots' in our lives and not forget to notice the 'white space'.  I was taught this by a beautiful woman named Susan Deefholts who had so much pain and grief in her life it was overwhelming and then she died of esophageal cancer far too young.  And throughout it all she would talk about noticing the white space and not just focusing on the black dot or it would be all that you would see.  There was also another woman that sticks out in my mind.  It was a woman who had been in a serious car accident.  The car had burst into flames and even though she survived the fire had melted her face.  From that day forward she would forever grieve the life she had had prior to the accident and have to work on accepting her new life after the accident.  When she was interviewed about how she had such a positive attitude even though she had suffered such a serious injury, she stated that it was a result of her father's love and a rule that he made her follow.  Her father told her that every day for the rest of her life she would grieve the loss of her old life and her beautiful face.  That would never go away.  He gave her permission to cry and rant and rave about that every day for 1/2 hr to 45 minutes.....'and then you must pick yourself up and focus on what positive things you are going to do and how you will spend your day because that is not going away and you don't want it to become all that you are and all that you do'.  

So acknowledge your pain......and then focus on the white space and what brings you joy.  Have a good day!