Everyone has experiences in childhood and we all make decisions about ourselves based upon these experiences. Sometimes we were given beliefs by others and sometimes we just decided them ourselves. When we make negative meaning about our experiences and ourselves as a child it is called a ‘script’. Just like a bad play, we reenact these scripts over and over again throughout our lives. We filter the information from our later experiences to fit our script and reinforce our theory. So if we believe we are ‘not good enough’ or ‘stupid’ then we give extra weight to people or events that reinforce that belief. And what we pay attention to grows, so these negative beliefs will magnify in our minds as they are reinforced. So, if you want to debunk the theories you developed as a child, then start looking for the ‘alternate story’. Look for the people who think you are good enough. And look for the positives in others…..we all appreciate being ‘seen’ this way. Look for the positive events that reinforce who you believe yourself to be. None of us are perfect but we are all okay and once we figure that out for ourselves, the nay-sayers won’t have as much power over us.
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