Life is a balancing act. The question is always how to focus your attention so that your mind, body and spirit get fed. When circumstances in your life are unfair it is easy to focus on the anger of 'BUT IT'S NOT FAIR'!!!! And, in lots of circumstances, you'd be right. Life isn't fair. And you can certainly see by our culture that we are not evolved yet as a society.
If you look at our Indigenous people, sick people in hospitals, children with special needs and older generations, you can see how unevolved our society is; we are more worried about money and acquiring things as a culture than taking care of these populations. Hubert Humphrey (1911-1978) who served as U.S. Vice President from 1965 to 1969. spoke about the treatment of the weakest members of society as a reflection of its government. He said “the moral test of government is how that government treats those who are in the dawn of life, the children; those who are in the twilight of life, the elderly; those who are in the shadows of life; the sick, the needy and the handicapped.”
It is natural to feel angry or sad or scared from time to time about this! Our feelings have information in them and it is the disconnect from our own feelings and vulnerability that causes us to disconnect from how we treat our vulnerable sectors in society.
So how do we heal that? We heal ourselves. We stop focusing on what we don't have control of and shift our attention and energy into an action plan. Now this shift might mean that you are still focused externally, however, instead of continually having conversations about how angry you are, you are focused on WHAT YOU WILL DO TO MAKE IT DIFFERENT. Once the awareness is there that there needs to be change then you can either continue to be part of the problem or work towards a solution. And you cannot heal others in a truly authentic way until you heal yourself. Which means that all of the ways that you feel that you are not being heard, or seen or valued by others, you need to stop doing to yourself as well. If you feel you are being abandoned by others then ask yourself how you are abandoning yourself? And then don't beat yourself up....just make a plan about how you will be there for yourself more. If you are angry that someone crossed the line and hurt you with their behaviour, then set a boundary with them so that it doesn't happen again. Then take an honest inventory of yourself re: how you have hurt others or crossed lines and figure out how to make amends. Or volunteer within a sector of society that has been hurt in the same way and support others through their healing. Healing is a combination of nurture and structure. Taking love in and putting love back into the world. It is not staying stuck in the story of having been damaged. It is taking what happened to you and then claiming your spirit BACK from the story that you told yourself when it happened.
One way to do that is through journalling. I'm sure I've mentioned it before, but if I haven't then, the 5 Minute Journal can help you to create new neuropathways re: how you think about yourself, how mindful you are in your day and how to problem solve about things that could make your life better.
Another way for you to claim your spirit would be to create your own Bible. Many churches are seeing a decline in numbers in this modern era. The function of these spiritual communities is to, literally, provide community and lift your spirits. If you are not interested in joining a church then think about joining a neighbourhood community group, or a book club, or a gym. Anywhere that you could belong. And create your own Bible from the memes found on the internet! You can buy or make a journal and glue in the memes from Facebook or Instagram or Twitter that come across your computer and create something that you can turn to that will lift your spirits when you are in need.
Another way to take responsibility for your spirit and make change in society is to vote. Now voting can be a complex thing. Especially at the Municipal level because there are so many positions to vote for. The most important thing to realize is that these people have the power to sway society towards mirroring what you value or not. You and your descendants will live the results of the vote. So if you want to make things different then don't forget to vote on Monday Oct 22, 2018!
http://wrvotes.com/
If you look at our Indigenous people, sick people in hospitals, children with special needs and older generations, you can see how unevolved our society is; we are more worried about money and acquiring things as a culture than taking care of these populations. Hubert Humphrey (1911-1978) who served as U.S. Vice President from 1965 to 1969. spoke about the treatment of the weakest members of society as a reflection of its government. He said “the moral test of government is how that government treats those who are in the dawn of life, the children; those who are in the twilight of life, the elderly; those who are in the shadows of life; the sick, the needy and the handicapped.”
It is natural to feel angry or sad or scared from time to time about this! Our feelings have information in them and it is the disconnect from our own feelings and vulnerability that causes us to disconnect from how we treat our vulnerable sectors in society.
So how do we heal that? We heal ourselves. We stop focusing on what we don't have control of and shift our attention and energy into an action plan. Now this shift might mean that you are still focused externally, however, instead of continually having conversations about how angry you are, you are focused on WHAT YOU WILL DO TO MAKE IT DIFFERENT. Once the awareness is there that there needs to be change then you can either continue to be part of the problem or work towards a solution. And you cannot heal others in a truly authentic way until you heal yourself. Which means that all of the ways that you feel that you are not being heard, or seen or valued by others, you need to stop doing to yourself as well. If you feel you are being abandoned by others then ask yourself how you are abandoning yourself? And then don't beat yourself up....just make a plan about how you will be there for yourself more. If you are angry that someone crossed the line and hurt you with their behaviour, then set a boundary with them so that it doesn't happen again. Then take an honest inventory of yourself re: how you have hurt others or crossed lines and figure out how to make amends. Or volunteer within a sector of society that has been hurt in the same way and support others through their healing. Healing is a combination of nurture and structure. Taking love in and putting love back into the world. It is not staying stuck in the story of having been damaged. It is taking what happened to you and then claiming your spirit BACK from the story that you told yourself when it happened.
One way to do that is through journalling. I'm sure I've mentioned it before, but if I haven't then, the 5 Minute Journal can help you to create new neuropathways re: how you think about yourself, how mindful you are in your day and how to problem solve about things that could make your life better.
Another way for you to claim your spirit would be to create your own Bible. Many churches are seeing a decline in numbers in this modern era. The function of these spiritual communities is to, literally, provide community and lift your spirits. If you are not interested in joining a church then think about joining a neighbourhood community group, or a book club, or a gym. Anywhere that you could belong. And create your own Bible from the memes found on the internet! You can buy or make a journal and glue in the memes from Facebook or Instagram or Twitter that come across your computer and create something that you can turn to that will lift your spirits when you are in need.
Another way to take responsibility for your spirit and make change in society is to vote. Now voting can be a complex thing. Especially at the Municipal level because there are so many positions to vote for. The most important thing to realize is that these people have the power to sway society towards mirroring what you value or not. You and your descendants will live the results of the vote. So if you want to make things different then don't forget to vote on Monday Oct 22, 2018!
http://wrvotes.com/