So I write my blogs often a week or two before I send them. However, my husband had a heart attack a few weeks ago. (He's fine now.....thanks to modern technology, a stent and a fabulous team at St Mary's hospital!) So all of a sudden the regular rhythms of life get completely tossed in the air. And no one warns you. It's not like you get an email in the mail the night before saying "OK.....just breathe and get a good night's sleep because tomorrow your life is going to take a left turn!!!" Nope. All of a sudden life happens and you're saying to yourself "OMG......now I'm in THIS story!" This event that will someday become a memory. "How'd I get to be in this story?" "And what needs to be done and sorted out so that I can be where my spirit needs to be?" Notice I didn't say "Where I need to be". If I had asked myself that then I may have gone with my values around responsibility and gone to work. Nope. I said where your 'spirit' needs to be. If I had gone to work that week, even though I'm super dedicated to my job and the people I serve, I wouldn't have been present to what they were talking about; I would've been worried and thinking about my husband. However, deciding where your spirit wants to be can be difficult because there are pros and cons to EVERY choice we make. Deciding to take the week off to be with him was what I wanted to do, however, it cost money and time and disappointed a lot of people who were counting on my support. Nothing is perfect. This is ALWAYS true. A friend put a sign up for the people I couldn't reach and I, obviously, forgot about this blog post.
Yes, be mindful. However, it is SO important to remember that the more serious the 'left turn' the more you need to remember that you will fall back into old, less helpful coping mechanisms the greater the crisis. That means everyone involved will be falling back into their old, less helpful coping mechanisms. So overeaters will have more cravings or tendencies to binge, drinkers will crave a drink, yellers will be more likely to yell, isolaters will isolate etc. And you have to walk mindfully with your less than perfect self that is just getting through the crisis. And the 'less than perfect loved ones' that are coping the best they can too! Whatever the 'left turn' is, car accident, job loss, health crisis, etc etc you all deserve grace and forgiveness for how you are getting through it.
And re: the mindfulness and personal health. You literally LIVE in your body. It deserves your attention and gratitude for the amount that it works on your behalf. As you age you will feel the effects of how much you have taken care of it and the stress you carry in it or not.
That's all. Mindfulness isn't a fad or a craze. It's an attitude; of being present with grace towards yourself and the people around you during the 'good, the bad and the ugly' of life! The more mindful you are the better the memories you will have of how you managed the 'ride of life'.
So....enjoy your day....... and a big THANK YOU to the First Responders that saved Greg's life! I am so grateful.